Monkey C Media, reference Dianna Bonny August 24th 2013
An open letter to Jennifer Thompson, platform website developer for Dianna Bonny, trading as Monkey Media
Your personal website advertises you as a coach, researcher, public speaker and cheerleader. As a researcher I trust you are aware of your own clients published materials and the content your clients put onto the platforms you supply.
You add “accountability” is part of your philosophy.
We have serious concerns about your claims. We wish to give you the opportunity to explain your “accountability” in providing Dianna Bonny with the platform which has enabled her to denigrate a tragic victim of suicide with weekly blogs for over a year. We would like you to explain your “accountability” regarding the suffering caused by the blogs to the victim’s family and friends.
In your services to promote Dianna Bonny online you must have seen my own website which describes Dianna’s behaviour. It has had over 70,000 viewings. It contains a terribly sad letter from the suicide victim’s mother describing Dianna’s behaviour to the family.
In case you have been too busy to read this sorry saga I have summarized it below:
3 years ago Dianna signed and issued a restraining order on her husband whom she was divorcing. Under penalty of perjury Dianna stated that her husband had attacked her, abused their children, stolen $500,000 from his employer, was capable of kidnapping and shooting his children, was capable of harming the family pets, was an alcoholic, and was planning to live abroad taking the family wealth.
Dianna’s husband told her that a divorce would harm the whole family and create financial problems for their children. However she served him with divorce papers and he then attempted suicide. He was rescued just in time with the help of his family in England who alerted the local police to save him. He was hospitalized for his own safety but discharged himself a few days later to live in one of his two other homes. He was still on hospital medications but his doctors did not classify him as a risk to others.
The day after he left hospital Dianna issued a restraining order which not only contained the above allegations but denied him the use of his passport to travel to his family abroad and recover. Dianna’s restraining order included a 12 month course for wife battery. A few hours later he committed suicide, leaving a note for his family repudiating all Dianna’s serious allegations, saying he had been driven into a corner by his wife and could take no more. He left behind 3 children whom he loved dearly, 3 homes with equity, and a suicide insurance pay-out of $750,000.
As Dianna’s divorce had not been finalized she took possession of his body and cremated him with no funeral or memorial service. His mother, aunt, brothers, sister and other family members were given no time to put his body to rest. Dianna told them that her husband had killed himself due to 3 years tax arrears problems. Yet there was no evidence of this in probate records. However Probate records showed Dianna made inaccurate statements and procedural irregularities which required numerous corrections.
His mother, brothers, sister and friends questioned these matters. Dianna threatened them with legal sanctions for harassment and instructed the family to make all future correspondence with her and her children via her lawyers.
For over 2 years Dianna refused to tell her husbands family members where she had put her husbands remains. She joined a “writing skills” club and hired your firm Monkey Media to promote herself as a “self-help guru”. Her regular blogs online have continued to denigrate her husband and promote herself as a role model “survivor” from whom others could learn a great deal.
An example Dianna blog claimed
I Burned My Wedding Dress
“A fragile piece of cloth”
“The hopes that caught in my throat as I took his hand at the altar….”
It describes a fictional story as if it were fact
Sadly her memory failed her and her innuendos were equally false.
There was no dress. She wore a two piece suit the skirt just below the knees and a jacket with a peplum waist.
The suit was made up into two pieces and was substantial, not fragile silk.
There was no altar. They were married in a registry office in front of a plain table.
It is incredibly upsetting for a mother to read regular inaccurate online blog postings about her son who committed suicide. Her husbands frail 80 year old mother finally published an open letter on my website which asked Dianna where she had put her sons remains. The victims mother also asked Dianna to stop denigrating her dead son online for the sake of his 3 children.
Dianna attempted to barter her husbands remains for the closure of my website. I was given that letter. Her strategy failed and she was finally obliged under pressure of my website readership to return her husbands remains to his mother.
All the above can be verified from public records and correspondence which I have seen.
You cannot begin to imagine the hurt Dianna has caused to the family of her husband, nor the impact of her actions on the future of her children. Her online actions and your support may have a high price.
So Jennifer Thompson WHY have you been providing Dianna with a public platform to promote her?
It is very strange to find a “PR expert” public speaker and coach to be providing the platform and support for a campaign of online denigration against a person who committed suicide under tragic circumstances.
Please consider your position as a publicist. Please let us know your views about responsible online “accountability” in respect of this, and allow other readers to comment.
Some of the many readers of your website and mine will have informed opinions to share. They can tell us something about the consequences of online blogging with misleading information.
“Communication experts” should be leading the way with responsible, accurate and fair reporting. Should those who unfairly denigrate the dead and who hurt innocent people deserve to keep their freedom of expression?
Please explain your actions and motivations.
If you have been misinformed we hope this letter corrects that.
However, if you have been aware of the real situation then your public and your clients can form their own opinion.
Nigel’s friends and family created a wonderful testament to Nigel’s life on the site www.muchloved.com . His family have maintained dignity and, apart from one open letter to me, refrained from responding to Dianna’s own online “survivor” blogging.
http://nigel.bonny.muchloved.com/frame.aspx? shows the respect Nigel had generated amongst his many genuine friends across the world. His tribute site still receives many positive comments from those who knew him well.
We are aware that there are many people who sell online platforms to those who then abuse others from the same platforms. ASK.FM in Latvia were recently in the news as a result of a reported suicide of one of their readers who felt bullied.
We hope that any site which becomes a platform for malicious misinformation which unfairly denigrates the dead will be shut down. We hope that one day those who create such platforms will be sued for the harm which their misinformation creates. Those who create online platforms for harm should be aware that one day they may be held responsible for the consequence of their actions.
Some website developers and content managers knowingly take that risk for the fast buck. We believe their time is running out. At some stage in the future they will be called to account. It’s just a question of time.
Freedom of expression has no place if innocent parties are being unfairly maligned with misinformation.
Especially if they committed suicide as a result of false accusations.
We hope that Dianna can be persuaded to cease her “survivor” blogging which appears to be causing her more harm than she realises.
Members of Nigel’s family have simply asked Nigel’s friends and relatives to say what they thought of him on an open forum tribute site
Nigel’s mother, brothers, sister and other relatives wanted to recognise the goodness in of a person who had been great friend of many others. The website tells the story of his vivacious character and colorful life.
Nigel’s life was flawed like everybody’s. However Nigel was ultimately respected by countless friends and family. His friends from around the world have made wonderful comments for over 2 years.
Jennifer Thompson, you can put online matters right and stop promoting Dianna
Will you please respond accordingly?